Help...

Well...here's a helpful hint for new parents, more experienced parents, and parents of all kinds. Even if you don't have kids, this is still a very important thing that I'm going to talk about. (I may say child but it can refer to teen, friend, or someone you know to fit your situation.)

Ok, the topic that i feel very strongly about is criticism. Sure, constructive criticism can be helpful but please, for the sake of the child don't over do it. Many people's intentions are to help them and push them foreword. Yes, that may be the case but don't go too hard on them, they're just kids. With teens, i understand how you think you need to put them to the grinding stone so they get at least B's in every class, even then, don't push too hard. They need to make decisions on their own and they may need a little guidance, like bumpers in bowling. With the bumpers, they help guide the bowling ball...but they don't guarantee you to hit a pin. Also, if you notice any kinds of unusual behavior, sadness for long periods of time, anger issues that just came out of no where, or anyvthing out of the norm for your loved ones; don't tell them to stop being lazy (est.) because there could be something else going on that your child doesn't want to tell you at the moment and that may set them over the edge. So always beware of what you do and say around them. Don't try to get it out of them, you just need to give them opportunities to tell you themselves. Pretty much just let them come to you when the time is right. To sum this para up, don't full out push your child foreword...let them go at their own pace with maybe a little help from the guidance committee (you). Don't over criticize when they show odd behavior. Most of all, let them come to you. They may wait until they think the right time is for you and/or them.

Have a very nice day and i hope this can help you make a difference in life.